Keep Conversations Flowing With the FORD Method

Whether it's at the salon or on a call to tech support, we've all been faced with the awkwardness of small talk. Even worse, many of us have run out of things to say. Well, there's good news: the FORD method may be a way to never run out of conversation topics again.

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The method is all about asking questions, which is a research-backed way to make people like you better. A 2017 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that when subjects were instructed to ask more questions, their conversation partners found them more likable. That same study also looked at a speed-dating scenario, and found that people who asked more follow-up questions were more likely to get a second date. It's a fact: people like talking about themselves. Ask them to do what they like, and they'll probably like you, too.

The Method

Without further ado, here's the FORD method. Those letters stand for four topics that can be used as conversation starters for just about anyone:

  • F: Family ("Do you have any siblings?")
  • O: Occupation ("What do you do for a living?")
  • R: Recreation ("What do you like to do for fun?")
  • D: Dreams ("Have you ever thought about doing [recreation] professionally?")

If you really want to cut through the awkwardness, it's important not only to ask questions, but to really listen to the person's answers. Next, comment on them, and ask follow-up questions. Before you know it, you'll be deep in conversation with a new friend!

For more small-talk tips, check out "Small Talk: How to Talk to People, Improve Your Charisma, Social Skills, Conversation Starters & Lessen Social Anxiety" by Aston Sanderson. The audiobook is free with a trial of Audible. We handpick reading recommendations we think you may like. If you choose to make a purchase through that link, Curiosity will get a share of the sale.

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Written by Ashley Hamer February 8, 2018